// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Asking your Bridal Party

Groom? Check. Ring? Check. Wedding Date? Check. Bridal Party????

Now it’s time to choose the people who will stand beside you on your special day. What used to be an ordinary question, is now an event all in itself. We are amazed at the creativity our brides and grooms have when it comes to asking their future bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers and groomsmen.

Some do it with a simple card and a bottle of champagne or box of cigars. Can’t go wrong with classic.


But it’s not uncommon for a bride to swoop in asking for gift boxes, crinkle paper and other gift wrapping supplies. Candles, champagne glasses, or personalized jewelry are popular enclosures, tied up with a beautiful bow and of course, a handwritten note.

We have even had the pleasure of helping create custom cards like the ones below for the occasion.


Admit it, we all have our pinterest boards! And we would love to be a part of it all. Start the wedding planning season off right, asking your friends to be a part of your special day in your own unique way.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Stamp of Approval


We’re pretty obsessed with snail mail (in case you haven’t noticed). And there can’t be snail mail without postage. Your postage stamp has a very practical job; it covers the cost of getting your invitation across town, or across the country. And yet, even though practical, it can still convey a sense of style. Is love in the air? Obsessing over that “something old”? Have a destination wedding? Why not let the first impression on your envelope tie in to the overall feel of your event?

You will need stamps for the outer envelope, but don’t forget to put another stamp on the smaller envelope for the reply set. It will help ensure that the rsvp comes back to you.

One of the most common questions we get from our brides is how much postage will their invitation require. We always recommend taking your entire suite to the post office to get it officially weighed. The cost will be determined by the stuffed envelope. But below are the current prices from the United States Postal Service:

1 ounce “forever” stamp envelope  |  .50
(should cover most response card envelopes or standard size Save the Dates)

1 ounce square or odd size envelope  |  .71

2 ounce envelopes  |  .71
(for many invitation suites on standard paper including the invite and reply set)

2 ounce odd size  |  .92

3 ounce envelopes  |  .92
(may be required for invitations with multiple inserts, heavier lined envelopes, or on double-thick card stock)

The USPS offers several different wedding themed stamps, including some by our friends at Rifle Paper. You can create personalized stamps sanction by the post office. Adding a collection of vintage stamps to your invitation is another trend we happily stand beside. There are stamps for every occasion. It makes running to the mailbox that much more fun!

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// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // It's all about the foil


Shiny gold, brushed gold, matte gold, rose gold. Copper. Once reserved for limited edition book covers, or those who could afford gold leaf, Foil-Pressing is now a more widely available print method. Embraced by many brides, adding foil to your wedding invitations is a sure way to make your invitations stand out. It is a bolder choice than traditional engraving, and offers flashier colors than letterpress, but the process is actually quite similar.


To add foil to an invitation, a metal die is created. But instead of the ink being applied directly to the die (as in engraving), the metal plate is heated. Thin sheets of foil are then pressed onto the paper by the hot plate. Because of the large amount of pressure applied, the foil adheres to the paper leaving a crisp, shiny image. A second plate, and second run of the press, is used for each additional color.


An opaque material, foil is applied on top of the paper. So it is a great choice when using darker colored stock. The color of the paper does not affect the crispness or hue, so it is always consistent. The shiny result lands a big visual impact.

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Foil can be used in combination with letterpress and engraving, but is not a great option to combine with thermography (since both processes involve heat). And once limited to traditional metallics, now virtually the entire rainbow is available in all its shiny glory.


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Rehearsal Dinner Invitations


You can call it the Night Before the Big Day, the Wedding Eve, or a good old fashioned Rehearsal Dinner, but the evening before a wedding is always full of anticipation. It’s a time for members of both families to meet, and includes the entire wedding party. Dinner is usually served, and sometimes a groom’s cake, maybe a funny toast or two, but there is always good cheer and well wishes for the next day.

Another popular wedding festivity that has become quite common, particularly for destination weddings, is a Welcome Party. It is open to more guests and usually just drinks and/or dessert are served. If you have a lot of out-of-town guests, but can’t have them all at a formal rehearsal dinner, it is a nice way to incorporate more people into the weekend’s festivities.


Traditionally, the Rehearsal Dinner is hosted by the groom’s family. Many families adhere to this tradition, but it is by no means set in stone. If it is being hosted by the groom’s parents, then typically they would issue the invitation. Often the Rehearsal Dinner invitation is a little more masculine, or gives a nod to the destination or the venue of the night’s events. It can be formal, but should not upstage the wedding invitation. It’s a time for the groom’s family to display their personality and send off their son in style.


Rehearsal dinner invitations are sent after the wedding invitations have gone out, typically 3-6 weeks before the event. Be sure and include the location, time, address, and attire. You can also include any information regarding the actual ceremony rehearsal if needed.


If the evening will end with a Welcome Party, an insert can be slipped into the envelope with the Rehearsal Dinner invitation, or a completely different invite can be sent to all guests. It is common for family friends to host the after party. They may want to select their own invitation, especially if they are like us and jump at any chance to pick out some fun paper! If the groom’s parents and other hosts would like to create and send their own invitation, the bride should not interfere with certain specifications. It is one of the pleasure’s of being able to host an event, that you get to pick out your own way to send paper love.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Thank You Notes

Merci Beaucoup! Grazie! Thanks!

One of the most popular weekly segments on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon are his Thank You Notes. Saying thanks to everything from hard taco shells, to yoga, to thanking fellow late night host James Corden from going by the name Jimmy, Fallon writes his notes on classic Crane stationery.

Although we may not have an audience like Jimmy Fallon, getting in the habit of writing thank you notes is just as important. Especially after a big occasion like a wedding.

During this exciting time  you will be showered with well wishes, gifts, and festivities. And each and every one one should be met with a heartfelt thank you. As Margaret Shepherd says in her book The Art of the Handwritten Note, “Ink on paper is still the classiest way to express the thoughts that really matter, on the occasions that really count. And sometimes it’s the only way; your words will carry sympathy and gratitude with a special kind of sincerity when the reader sees them on paper in your writing.”

In general, gifts received before the wedding should be followed by a thank you within two weeks. According to Emily Post, couples have three months post wedding to get the task done. Especially since the gift giver was not there to see you receive all of the gifts at the wedding, it is important to make sure and let them know you received the gift and, of course, loved it.

Late is always better than never. So don’t hesitate to send one past the three month mark.

So what do you say? Shepherd gives 5 characteristics of a well-written note.

  1. Be generous

  2. Be specific

  3. Be prompt

  4. Be succinct

  5. Be personal

Be generous in thanking the giver in writing, even if you thanked them in person. Mention the gift specifically. Send the thank you notes out in a timely manner. Keep the topic of this note to the occasion and the gift. Hand writing the note, especially on your own stationery, keeps it personal. Don’t use pre-printed cards without your own hand-written sentiment.

Picking out some personal stationery makes the process a little more fun! And with a great sale from Crane & Co. right now, you can get 50 personalized cards for only $99. Add a fun stamp and you will be sending some paper love in the mail!


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Bridal Showers


Bridal showers are a time-honored tradition, especially in the South. Cucumber sandwiches, a bouquet made of ribbons and bows, and the oohing and ahhing after each beautifully wrapped gift is opened. A place setting of china? Useful cooking utensils? Monogrammed linens?


Along with the traditional shower, today’s brides are sometimes showered around a theme- Stock the Bar, Lingerie, Round the Clock, or His and Hers. Some brides opt for one larger shower, while others have multiple smaller gatherings. The invitation sets the theme right from the start!


We have an extensive selection of imprintables in the store to give you an idea for shower themes. And of course, the custom options are limitless! On the invitation, be sure and tell your guests whom the shower is for, location, time, as well as rsvp information. A list of hosts is often included, as is registry information, but it is not necessary.

It is always a nice gesture to give the hosts of the shower a small hostess gift, of course accompanied by a handwritten note. It will get you warmed up for all of those thank you notes you will be writing in the weeks ahead!


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Menus, Programs & Place Cards

Menus, programs and place cards (lions, tigers and bears, oh my!)

Although you’re not likely to encounter lions, tigers, and bears (oh my!) when planning your wedding, sometimes all of the emerging details are just as scary! Do we want programs? Are place cards necessary? What about weekend itineraries?

Programs are often handed out at the wedding ceremony. They include information such as the order of the service, readings, song titles etc. Additionally, couples use the programs to introduce the wedding party to their guests and as an opportunity to say a special thank you, or greeting. Sometimes pertinent reception information (such as directions or transportation information) is written on the back side.

Lots of options exist for program formatting: long and skinny, foldover booklet, tri-folds or even fans for those hot summer weddings!

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Sunday Rein

Place cards and table numbers are used for seated dinners. We have a large selection of place cards and table numbers in stock that can be personalized. At If It’s paper, we are able to print the names of all of your guests on placecards ahead of time. Or we can add a custom motif to a place card, and then the names can later be added by a calligrapher.

Other components for the wedding weekend we have created include welcome booklets, city guides, gift tags, favor tags, signage and more! Using the same font, color, or monogram throughout your pieces gives a cohesive flow. It adds a personal touch without getting too theme-y.

We typically work on programs about 3-4 weeks before the wedding. If you have all of your information nailed down, you can certainly start earlier. Often, though, the details don’t come together much sooner. If you can dream it, we can make it! And we promise it won’t be scary!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Emily & Nick


We had the immense pleasure of working with a local Greensboro blogger, Emily Helm Wilkinson, on all her wedding day-of details last Fall. From custom welcome booklets, tags, programs, menus and place cards to printed napkins and cups, Emily & Nick's special day was filled with personal touches that made the day unforgettable.

So for today's post, we are leaving the blogging up to the professional, and just giving you a glimpse of the details we created below. Head on over to Emily's blog to check out all the other goodness from her beautiful wedding.

All photographs by Alexa's Photography

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Calligraphy

A pen, some ink, and a piece of paper. Those are the tools of a calligrapher. But somehow, when they do what they do, simple ink on paper transforms the words on the page.

Handwritten calligraphy can be used in various parts of your wedding stationery. Calligraphers can draft the text of your invitation and create artwork that is then used in other methods of production (engraving, letterpress, or thermography). Some brides opt to have just the names of the bride and groom, or other key pieces of information, done in calligraphy, and typeset the rest of the invitation. Typically, calligraphers charge per line when creating the artwork for your invite.

Having the envelopes hand-addressed by a calligrapher is another way to enhance the presentation of your wedding invitations. Try as we might, our handwriting just doesn’t compare! You can pick the calligraphy to match the tone of your wedding weekend; whimsical, formal, modern. More styles of calligraphy exist today than ever before.

We have a list of calligraphers that we recommend to our brides for their invitation and envelope needs. Each calligrapher does have their own booking requirements and other requests, such as timeline, additional envelopes needed etc.

If you have a custom monogram or other motif created by a calligrapher, you can incorporate it on napkins, programs, gift tags and more. The possibilities that a pen and a piece of paper give you are endless!

// PAPER LOVE // Love Letters

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Love Letters don’t have to be a thing of the past.

At If It’s Paper, we have declared 2018 to be the year of the handwritten note. We are holding strong to our New Year’s resolution, and the month of February is a great time to express your feelings to someone you love.

Need a little inspiration? Check out this love letter from Johnny Cash to his wife June:


Swoon….. But if you are feeling a little tongue-tied, a simple "hello, I love you" does the trick.

So whether its for a birthday or to a special Valentine, pick up your pen and grab a piece of paper. Send some paper love.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Liddy + Grainger

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For those of you who don't know, our family grew by one amazing and beautiful girl this summer, Liddy. I just have to say, my brothers picked THE BEST sisters for me.

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amelia anne photography

After rejoicing that I was getting a new sister and that my baby brother a wife, my mind instantly went to PAPER. Ah, my great loves - family and paper - meet again. 

Liddy and Grainger were married in July of 2017 in Bozeman, Montana. How can it be that six months have passed? Here's a look at some of our favorite details from their wedding weekend. 

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amelia anne photography

Save the Dates 

Light gray letterpress on the luxurious 220# Crane's lettra.

Rehearsal Dinner invitations 

We wanted these invitations to compliment the wedding invitation and save the dates, but it was important that they were special in their own right, too. I love the copper engraving on ultra thick charcoal paper. It's beautiful and sophisticated, but a touch more masculine. We really ran with the fly fishing thing. It added a great touch to the napkins as well!

Wedding invitations 

Copper foil + letterpress with a copper painted edge. I love the addition of the custom envelope liner - a last minute idea that really pulled it all together and made it "them" 

all the details

There were so many little paper details to be found at both the wedding and rehearsal dinner. Table cards, menus, programs, napkins with copper foil, cups (for Montana Mules, of course!), escort cards, and various signage.

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

And now, I will shamelessly brag on the amazing folks I get to call family.
Really, I must be the luckiest person in the world.
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amelia anne photography

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amelia anne photography

 amelia anne photography

amelia anne photography

 amelia anne photography

amelia anne photography

 amelia anne photography

amelia anne photography

 amelia anne photography

amelia anne photography

// REAL WEDDINGS // Mica & Daniel

One of our favorite things is when we have the opportunity to work with a bride from start to finish, helping her turn her vision into a reality… and it’s made even better when the bride is a childhood friend! We had just this opportunity with Mica Medoff for her June 2017 wedding. Mica, originally from Greensboro, now lives in New York City. The summer wedding affair took place in the mountains of North Carolina, and we were honored to be a part of her entire wedding journey.

Wedding Invitation

These beauties were printed by our partners at Bella Figura. Mica used vine green letterpress on two-ply cotton paper featuring custom calligraphy from Sarah Hanna and floral lined envelopes. Her suite included a weekend events card and a response set, and once we held it in our hands, it's hand-crafted charm made it hard to put down.

Wedding Program

A digitally printed folded program featuring a beautiful custom duogram by Sarah Hanna.

Escort Cards

Cocktail Napkins

These simple, yet oh-so-elegant cocktail napkins featured the couple's new married monogram in a moss green matte foil.



We were honored to be a part of Mica and Daniel's picturesque NC wedding. All the best wishes to this happy couple!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A General Pricing Guide

Of course we always swoon over letterpress, and get giddy about engraving, but at If It’s Paper, we know that every wedding has its own unique style, and that style also comes with a unique budget. One of the most common questions we get is...

How much do invitations cost?

Many factors influence the cost of an invitation: What print process? How many inserts? Do you want a lined envelope? Inner and outer envelope? Is a metallic color like gold important to you, or do watercolors catch your eye?

Below is a very general guideline for the cost of an invitation suite created in each of our different print processes. This price includes 100 printed invitations, envelopes, reply cards, and reply envelopes. Be sure to check out older blog posts to see the difference between the different print processes.

In House Digital Printing

$300 and up for basic printing / design
$450 and up for full bleed color design


$450 and up for one color thermography


$950 and up for one color engraving


$1200 and up for one color letterpress

Foil Stamping

$1700 and up for one color stamping

Keep in mind that these prices are only an estimate, and will vary based on what you choose for your suite. Each print process has benefits and drawbacks and there is a time and a place we recommend each one. Stop by and flip through one of our many albums to touch and feel the difference for yourself!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Digital Printing

One of the biggest trends we have seen this year in the bridal industry is the use of watercolor images. Colorful flowers, whimsical brush strokes, captivating sunsets. All of these images do best when printed using a digital flat print. One of the biggest advantages of using a flat print is the ability to use multiple colors, and various shades within one color family. It is not possible to get that variety using engraving, thermography, or letterpress.

Another advantage of digital printing is the cost. It is typically less expensive than other print processes. The timeline to produce a flat printed invitation is also usually shorter. Thicker papers are usually not a great option for flat print, but we have a wide selection of card stock, felted and deckled edge papers to use.

Our in-house graphic design team has been bursting with beautiful designs for invitations. Whether for bridal showers and brunches, rehearsal dinners and welcome parties, or programs and place cards, the options are limitless!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Thermography

We all live in the real world (well, most of the time) and know that every occasion has its own needs. That’s true for invitations as well. Sometimes you send a text, sometimes you want a playful invitation, and other times you want a little more formality. And that same real world also comes with real budgets. Thermography is a budget-friendly alternative to engraving.

Thermography produces raised ink that gives a more formal feel than flat printing. The process is not as time-consuming as engraving, allowing for the costs to come down. The invitation is printed with ink, and then a special compound is sprinkled on the invitation and heated. The powder adheres to the ink once heated, creating the raised texture. There is no bruising on the back.

Certain papers are not suitable for thermography, and there are some visual differences between the inks, but it still stands as a very popular method for printing wedding invitations.

It is very important for all of the bridal consultants at If It’s Paper to understand and respect the budget of every bride and groom. We pride ourselves in finding beautiful invitations for every event!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // The Revival of Letterpress

In recent years, the art of letterpress has been revived. And we couldn’t be happier!

In fact, you can often walk into one of our stores and find us swooning over a letterpressed piece of stationery or invitation. The words “to have and to hold” may refer to wedding vows, but can’t it apply to beautiful paper as well? Because we have some serious letterpress love!

So what’s all the fuss about? A letterpress invitation entices multiple senses. You see it and you feel it. The process starts when the design is copied onto a polymer plate. Negative space is carved away and the plate is fed into the printing press. The ink is mixed and spread on the roller. Many designers use printing presses that are hundreds of years old. Each invitation is individually pressed into the plate. Originally, only enough pressure was applied so that the plate kissed the top of the paper leaving virtually no indentation. Today’s brides often want more pressure applied so that the texture of the paper is emphasized.

Either way, the result is beautiful. Below are some examples of letterpress invitations from our partners at Bella Figura. Feel free to swoon!


And if you're really captivated, you can watch this video that Bella Figura created to take you through the entire process.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // The Art of Engraving

Timeless. Elegant. Hand Crafted; three attributes of engraving. An engraved wedding invitation is a piece of art in and of itself. When an engraved invitation arrives in the mail, it delivers with it a sense of timelessness, elegance and hand craftsmanship. Just as the design has been etched into a copper plate, the impression the invitation gives is etched in the mind of your guests.

Engraving has been around for centuries. The method has withstood the test of time because of the crispness and detail it gives to paper. The process begins when a design is etched into a metal plate (often copper). Ink is poured over the plate and quickly wiped off. Thus only  the ink is left behind in the etching of the plate. The paper is hand fed through the press and 4,000 pounds of pressure are applied from beneath. The paper is forced into the lines of the design and the raised ink is left on the paper. A beautifully intricate image is revealed.

Each invitation is individually fed through the press. The backside of an engraved invitation has a small indention, or bruise, that is left over from the pressure applied. The bruising, a hallmark of engraving, is like the fingerprint of an artist left on an original painting. Sometimes a subtle halo surrounds the image on the front side, particularly when using dark papers. But there is no other print process that will give you the same crispness and boldness that engraving will give. Engraving and letterpress, a similar method, are the only methods that can be used on thicker card stock that cannot go through a modern printer.

 At If It’s Paper, we proudly represent several companies that have a rich engraving history including Arzberger, Crane and William Arthur. Their attention to detail rivals our passion for paper, paper that is as wonderful to receive as it is to send.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Monograms and Duograms

Along with sweet tea and BBQ, monograms are a hallmark of the South. And what better way to incorporate a personal touch than adding a monogram to a wedding invitation. It is a sweet accent that can be added throughout your invitation suite. The design options are endless. The monogram can stand out from the rest of the text in a different color ink, or offer a subtle touch using the blind embossed technique.

Traditionally, the bride would use her maiden monogram. A woman can use that monogram throughout her life. And since she isn’t married at the time the invitation is issued, using her new monogram wouldn’t be proper. We just can’t help hearing our grandmothers whispering “it isn’t wrong, but we just don’t do it.”

 A duogram is a great option if you want to combine the bride and the groom initials together. A duogram uses the first letter initial from the bride and the first letter initial from the groom. No last initial is used.

You can go modern, traditional, funky, classic, feminine, masculine, any style, when using a monogram or duogram. Include it on your wedding invitation and then carry it through on napkins, programs, thank you stationery and more!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Addressing your Envelopes

Do you ever feel like you need an advanced degree in wedding planning to know everything? How do you stuff the envelope? What am I supposed to do with that tissue paper? Consider us to have a PhD in this area!

One of the most common questions we get about invitations is how to properly address an envelope.

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Calligraphy by Carole 

Crane and Co., who we proudly represent, is a great reference for wedding etiquette questions. We consulted their Wedding Blue Book when coming up with the following examples of how to address an envelope.

When addressing the outer envelope, use the full proper name of the guest(s), including titles, and always spell out street and state names.

For a married couple who share the same last name:

Mr. and Mrs. George Timothy Clooney
1234 Hollywood Way
Beverly Hills, California 90210

For a married couple who have different last names:

Ms. Jennifer Joanna Aniston and Mr. Justin Paul Theroux
1234 Friends Avenue
Malibu, California 90265

If a couple is living together, but they are not married, the word “and” is omitted and the woman’s name is listed on the top line and the man’s on the second.

Ms. Oprah Gail Winfrey
Mr. Stedman Graham, Junior
1234 Michigan Avenue
Chicago, Illinois 60611

Same sex couples would list their names in alphabetical order and follow the same rules regarding if they are married or not.

Mr. David Michael Burtka and Mr. Neil Patrick Harris

For invitations that have an inner and outer envelope, the above addresses are used on the outer envelope, and the inner envelope list their names again. Any children or guests that are also invited are listed on the inner envelope. Traditionally, formal names appear on the inner envelope as well:

Mr. Burtka and Mr. Harris

but today people commonly use the form of address that they know the couple as:

David and Neil

If children are invited, their names would appear on the inner envelope, listed in chronological order:

Mr. Burtka and Mr. Harris
Gideon and Harper

Whew! That’s a lot of info! We hope this helps. We are always here for our brides and grooms to answer any questions along the way, so comment below if you have a crazy address that you’re not sure what to do with and we will come to the rescue!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Save the Dates

It’s time to grab that red pen and mark everyone’s calendar- YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED! We live in such busy times, people’s calendars fill up. Save the Date cards are a great way to communicate the essential information to your guestlist. Here are some answers to common questions we receive about Save the Date’s:

Do I need to send a Save the Date card?

Save the Date cards have become more popular in recent years, but they are not mandatory. If you are having a destination wedding, getting married during the holiday season, or over a popular three-day weekend, it’s helpful to spread the word. The people most important to you can then reserve the date and begin making travel arrangements. They are also helpful if you have a lot of information to convey (including accommodations etc). With a fabulous Save the Date, your guests are sure to get more excited about the weekend.

Who should receive them?

Everyone on your guest list, including your bridal party, should get one. If you are considering having an A list and a B list of invitees (be honest, you know you do), only send Save the Dates to people you are confident will be included on the final list. You can send invitations to people who did not receive a Save the Date card.

What information do I need to include?

The date and location are the most important pieces of information to be included. Some understated Save the Dates just list the couples names, the date, and the city and state. This is a great option particularly if you haven’t nailed down your venue site yet. “Formal Invitation to follow” is usually included on the bottom. Some brides opt to list accommodations, or other pertinent information. If you have a wedding website, it may be helpful to list as well.

Does my Save the Date need to match my formal wedding invitation?

Most importantly, your Save the Date needs to match your personality! Some brides choose their Save the Date with a cohesive look in mind that will flow from their Save the Dates to their invites and other components of their paper suite. Others like to include an engagement photograph, or an illustration of the venue. Or you can be creative, depart from the traditional wedding invitation look, and choose a fun announcement that reflects your relationship.

Here are some other Save the Dates that we are loving right now: