// PAPER LOVE // Birth Announcements

When you are expecting a little one, there are many moments spent day dreaming… that newborn smell, the first giggle, sweet little naps on your chest, picking out the birth announcements.

Wait, is that last one just us?

You don’t have to live in Windsor Castle to have a grand announcement for your baby! Royal or not, every baby is a prince or princess in the eyes of their parents. Sending out birth announcements is a time-honored tradition. And in this digital age, it’s a way to announce your newest addition with your family’s unique flair.

Are you more traditional? Go for a classic birth announcement. It will be a keepsake for you and your loved ones. My mother’s birth announcement, engraved in gold and pink, is framed and hanging on the wall in our home.


Or go bold with bright colors and shiny foil. How about whimsical? The possibilities are endless.

You can add a photo on the front or back side. It’s so fun for friends and family to look at the birth announcement and pick out those family features that have been passed down through generation after generation. Whose nose does she have? Does he have grandpa’s hairline? Where did those dimples come from?


On birth announcements, we typically include the full name of the baby, date of birth, weight and length. Some couples opt to include the time of birth, particularly if it was in the wee hours of the morning (Just in case you need to remind that little one, when they are sixteen years old and causing mischief, just what you went through to bring them into this world!)


Don’t forget to list the parents name and include the proud big brother or sister. Was your little one named after a family member or dear friend? What a wonderful moment, for them to open up your birth announcement, and feel that connection all over again.


Don’t let the digital world claim all the credit for announcing your little one. Sending your personal birth announcement lets you do so in your own style.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Caitlin + Chris

Blogger, Caitlin Covington, and Chris were married in June of 2018, and we had the pleasure of working with them on their save the dates and wedding invitations. Have you ever seen a more beautiful couple? We loved being a part of the process and are excited to share the details with you!


For her save the dates, Caitlin chose to set the tone for her big day by combining foil text with a digitally printed photo of her and Chris. For design, we enlisted the help of calligrapher Debi Zeinert. We completed the look with a solid foil liner... the outcome was, in our opinion, perfect! We love the way the whimsical calligraphy and tawny matte foil compliment the fall palette of their engagement shoot.


Caitlin's wedding invitations featured custom calligraphy from Sarah Hanna in fog gray letterpress. The final touches complete the look, so we finished the invitation with a soft pink painted edge and custom envelope liners. Her envelope liners featured peonies and a custom duogram by Sarah Hanna. We love the way the custom liner represents Caitlin's style without compromising the timeless, classic design of the invitation.

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All pieces were printed by our friends at Bella Figura. Are you planning a wedding? We would love to work with you! If you love what you see, fill out the form below to request an estimate for a suite exactly like Caitlin’s.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Rawlings + Tommy


It’s been almost a year since Rawlings and Tommy tied the knot on Figure Eight Island. Carolina blue skies hung overhead and full hearts celebrated the happy couple. Rawlings’ paper trousseau used a beautiful shade of blue to echo the coastal backdrop. From the Save the Dates to the menus, a cohesive looks was created that tied all elements of the wedding weekend together. No detail was left undone. We just love how all of the paper pretties enhanced the festivities. Read on to see all the details.

Save the Dates

One color letterpress on 220# Pearl White Lettra paper featuring a custom map of Figure Eight Island


Wedding Invitations

Featured custom calligraphy from Laurie Harper engraved in a custom made blue ink

Invitation suite included the Invitation, Weekend Events card, and Reply Set all engraved on 330# white stock with a painted edge


Rehearsal Dinner & Welcome Party

One color letterpress on #7 size card


Weekend Festivities invitations

Par 3 Luncheon

Flat print on square white deckled edge paper

Food Truck Lunch

Flat print on 100# white felt paper



Featuring a hand drawing of Saint James Parish printed on 100# white felt paper



One color letterpress on Pearl White Lettra paper featuring the couples new custom duogram



Printed in gold ink on frosted cups



// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A Tale of Two Invitations

Spring is in the air and we are kicking into high gear with wedding season. Wedding invitations picked out months prior to the wedding are being stuffed, stamped and delivered. Every invitation has its own story behind it. Even a very traditional bride can put her own individual style on a classic invitation suite.

For something to become a classic it must stand the test of time, and quality craftsmanship is a must. There is no doubt that the William Arthur beaded border card fits the bill. Available in both ecru and white, the invitation features a delicate beaded border that has been blind embossed on the paper. Blind embossing is actually the same process as engraving, but no ink is used. Instead a beautiful pattern or texture is etched into the paper.

We had two March brides each choose the beaded border invitation suite for their wedding. But the invitations themselves are actually very different from one another. Using the paper as a springboard for their own unique look, they chose ink colors and fonts to create two totally different feels. Read below to see the specifics on these invitations:


-White William Arthur Beaded Border Invitation Suite
-Printed in Slate blue thermography
-Velvet Hammer font used throughout the entire suite


Turning the orientation of the card to horizontal creates a fresh take on a classic. Katie did not include any motifs on her invitation since she used all script lettering.


-Ecru William Arthur Beaded Border Invitation Suite
-Charcoal thermography
-Combination of Burgues script and a serif block font


The flourish used on the invitation was later carried into other pieces at the wedding including the personalized cocktail napkins as well as signage.

There are so many options when it comes to creating your own unique look. Another bride opted for more modern fonts, and a scalloped envelope with a bold liner. The same beaded border card is also available in a square size. A classic layout on a square card is an unexpected detail.


So tryout different fonts, change up the ink color, pick an envelope liner that matches other colors in your wedding. Have fun! You can be traditional and unique all at the same time.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Jenna + Patrick

Jenna discovered us after she had already ordered her wedding invitations. She was hoping to have someone local guide her through the final details of the wedding. We were able to take the tone of the invitations, and incorporate her vision for the wedding to create her day-of pieces.

From the place cards tucked into the hand-tied napkins, to the candlelit table for two reserved for the bride and groom, this wedding was all about the details. Cool grey tones were sprinkled throughout the evening and played beautifully against the gold details.

For the programs, we incorporated the grey and white floral motif from the invitation envelope liner. Carrying the same fonts and colors from the programs to the menus helped create a cohesive look between the ceremony and reception. These pieces matched others signage used at the wedding.

You can’t help but feel the love as shown through all of the little details at the wedding. We can help you finalize the details of your wedding, no matter where in the process we meet!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Tyler + Blake

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One never can predict the weather in North Carolina. Even though the calendar says February, this week we are enjoying Carolina blue skies and warm seventy degree days. A tease of Spring and Summer. Tyler and Blake got married at the end of September. The date may have been officially fall, but mother nature gave them a glorious Indian Summer day.

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The day’s festivities were held at the Pavilion at the Angus Barn. The ceremony took place outside, along the lake, with the bride and groom saying their “I Do’s” under a beautiful arbor. How gorgeous are those flowers? The wedding invitations needed to convey the same level of elegance, and we just love how they turned out. The gold foil for the bride and groom’s names is off-set by the understated grey letterpress for the rest of the text. The rounded corners offer a glimpse of the romanticism that the entire evening embodied.


2 ply cotton paper with rounded corners printed in taupe letterpress and matte gold foil

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Wedding Programs

The programs were designed and printed in-house and used the same understated block font from the invitations. The pale pink satin bow coordinated with the flowers.

Cover on 100# cardstock and insert printed on text weight paper, all tied together with a satin bow

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The petite top-fold booklet included the order of the wedding ceremony, list of the wedding party, and a heartfelt sentiment from Tyler and Blake. They concluded their note to guests by saying, “We remain thankful and humbled by the blessing of family and friends.” Perfect words for a perfect evening.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Unexpected Anniversary Gifts

A year full of firsts have come and gone… from the first time you used your new married name to your first holiday season as a married couple. And now it’s time to celebrate your first anniversary. Paper is the traditional first anniversary gift, and it’s a time-honored tradition we can get behind!

Personalized stationery will never go out of style. And this is a great time to replenish your partner’s paper wardrobe after having written all those thank you notes! Lettersheets, foldover or flat notes, and calling cards are great to keep on hand. These Silk Stationery Boxes from Haute Papier are perfect for couples since you can include up to 4 different combinations of names in the set.


Do you like to honor tradition but with a 2019 vibe? Check out these unexpected paper gifts that fit the bill!


Personalize a set of coasters with your last name, street address, or a fun duogram. Traditionally barware has a gentleman’s monogram and linens have a woman’s. But you can certainly have fun with whatever you choose.


Heading out of town for your anniversary? Give your hubby or wife some new traveling accessories from Uashmama. Made in Italy, these bags are made of washable paper. And we have traveled with them and can attest to their versatility. Practical and chic, yes please!

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Or what about a new cookbook or coffee table book? Mark the inside with the date of your first anniversary.

Whatever you give, be sure to include a heartfelt note. This past year is sure to have been filled with ups and downs, laughter and tears. But don’t worry, the best is yet to come!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Hannah + Todd

We are always excited to share in the planning and joy surrounding each of our clients’ “big day” and feel especially spoiled when that client is an old friend. Hannah and I trace our friendship to our middle school days and have been pretty much inseparable ever since. Lucky me. It was the most special honor to stand by her side while she and Todd exchanged vows in January, 2018. Their ceremony was at White Memorial Presbyterian Church and the reception followed at The Merrimon-Wynne House.

Hannah combined classic elegance with a touch of modernity, and the outcome was perfection. Keep scrolling for all of the lovely details. All of the photos were taken by the incredibly talented Julia Wade. We adore her work over here.

Save the Dates

Gold Engraving on 165# White Card engraved by our friends at Arzberger Stationers.
Envelopes were lined with their Neutral Marble liner.

Wedding Invitations

Hannah’s classic wedding invitation suite featured the invitation, reply set and a reception card. All pieces were engraved with grey suede ink on the 165# white paper. The inner envelope was lined with gold tissue, echoing the Save the Date. (Arzberger Stationers)

Rehearsal Dinner Invitations

Flat Print on layered green and opal shimmer cards designed and printed in-house.

Day-of Paper Details

Wedding Programs, Table Assignments, Thank You sentiment, and reception signage all designed and printed in-house on white, felt textured 100# paper.

I am in a state of disbelief that just three days ago the Morecrafts celebrated their first anniversary. Anyone else trying to figure out where 2018 went?? A sucker for tradition, I can’t help but take the opportunity to mention the traditional first anniversary gift: paper. Check back next week for our favorite first anniversary gift ideas.

// REAL WEDDINGS // December Deckled Edges

Nothing says December like a deckled edge… that is just what you were thinking, right? We know people typically think of snowflakes and Santa, Christmas cards, and holiday invitations. But December weddings are special in their own right. Everyone is already feeling festive. Churches and venues are filled with greenery and candles.

The same romanticism of a candle lit room is embodied in the torn edges of deckled paper. These two December wedding invitations evoke the feeling of the season in very different ways. Both printed and designed in-house, they also each feature the artwork of an outside artist.

Bethany + Grayson

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Bethany and Grayson’s wedding invitations featured the custom wreath artwork and duogram of Betsy Peters Rascoe of Design Dimensions. We paired a coordinating script font for the bride and groom’s names. The design embraces the season, without screaming Christmas.

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Flat print on Ivory Deckled Edge Paper | Photography courtesy of Missy Mimlitsch

Emily + Greg


Emily and Greg’s invitations are clean and elegant. Featuring their names in the calligraphy of Shasta Bell, we decided to keep the rest of the text very simple. The charcoal ink pairs wonderfully with the crispness of the white deckled paper. The entire suite evokes the quietness of winter.

Flat print on White Deckled Edge Paper

Flat print on White Deckled Edge Paper

If you would like to work with an outside artist or calligrapher on elements of your wedding invitation, we can add additional typesetting to their designs. We require all artwork to be submitted to us in a high resolution file. It can also then be used on napkins, koozies, or other day of paper needs. We have lots of sizes in stock including square and folded cards. So many options and so many possibilities!

Don’t fault us… while others are dreaming of a white christmas, we are dreaming of deckled edges.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Seely + Bo


Sometimes the backdrop of a wedding is just as important as the people gathered for the celebration. Especially if that location has a personal significance. Seely Stephenson and Bo Nicholson tied the knot in Roaring Gap, North Carolina this past September. The bride’s grandparents were married in the same spot many years ago. In fact, they were gifted with a painting of the wedding site, the Greystone Inn, for their wedding. Seely wanted to incorporate that piece of family history into her paper trousseau.

Save the Dates

The painting was used as the building block for the Save the Date design. The information was kept minimal and the colorful painting set the stage for the wonderful weekend in the mountains.


Designed and printed in-house- Flat print on 100 lb white felt paper


The wedding invitations, printed by our friends at Arzberger, also incorporated the same image, but we softened the edges of the painting. The deep green ink stands out beautifully on the crisp white paper. Using the same fonts from the Save the Dates helped create a cohesive feel for the wedding. These invitations had two press runs, one for the digital image at the top, and a second for the raised text.


Thermography and flat print on 165 lb white paper printed by Arzberger Stationers

Welcome Party


Designed and printed in-house- Flat print on 100lb white felt paper with kraft paper envelopes

Cocktail Napkins

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While the Welcome Dinner Invitations echoed the mountains with the kraft colored envelopes and motif of greenery, the personalized coral napkins gave a pop of color. Seely and Bo’s fun-loving personalities shined throughout the weekend. And that joyous spirit was included in all of the wedding details. They built new memories on the shoulders of cherished family ones.

How lucky are we to be a part of it all?

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A thank you to our brides...


I have a little secret for y’all… I love my job. I had a bride come in the other day to pick up a sample of her wedding invitations. The bulk of the invites were being shipped to her mom’s house for addressing. But she wanted to see one in person. She came in, dressed in her business attire, super professional. I grabbed the invitation and handed it over to her. As she opened it, revealed the gorgeous envelope liner, and pulled out the invitation, she starting crying. It was such a sweet moment. I remember when she and her fiance had first come in to discuss Save the Dates. They are clearly smitten with one another. And we get to be a part of the day they join together for the long haul.

It is our immense pleasure to work with you during life’s most important moments. Although our blog is focused mostly on weddings, there are many other moments we are thankful to share. We get to celebrate babies with birth announcements. Help you put your best foot forward with new business cards. Stand by you during a vulnerable time when crafting the sentiment for sympathy acknowledgement cards.

If It’s Paper could be just another party store. A place to pick up some funny napkins, or grab a birthday card. But instead, you share your life with us. During this season of Thanksgiving, we are thankful for you.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Martha + James

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.

This old English rhyme still holds meaning today. The Knot.com describes the meaning behind the poem using words like continuity, tradition, good luck, and optimism. Martha and James’ April wedding embodied these words in spirit, and in all the details.

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From their invitations, to the wedding favors, the bride took classic designs, and gave them a fresh new look-- a traditional layout and font combination in an unexpected horizontal orientation. A time-honored marriage ceremony laid out in a petite, accordion fold wedding program. And the color blue, often used to symbolize love, purity, and fidelity, was sprinkled throughout the wedding reception. A new custom-designed duogram for the bride and groom was used on the Save the Dates. That same motif was carried into other pieces at the wedding (the program, napkins, and koozies). Martha used her program to not only lay out the order of the ceremony, but to describe her something old, something new. Every guest was treated to the sentiment behind many of the details.


Fans of the handwritten note, we love how the bride and groom wrote letters to one another. Martha had some of her letters to James framed. In another sweet gesture, James had their wedding motif embroidered on a handkerchief. Known to shed happy tears, it was the perfect present for Martha. And you can imagine that same handkerchief becoming a something old or something borrowed for a loved one in the future.


Save the Date

Designed and printed in-house on deckled paper



165# white card stock printed in black thermography



100# felt paper printed digitally and scored

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Ok, I admit it. I can recite the Father of the Bride movie almost word for word. Steve Martin as George Banks and his perfect one-liners.

“You know, that's not a bad idea. Who else can we ask not to eat?
My parents- your mother.”


“A cake, Franck, is made of flour and water. My first car didn’t cost $1200.”

And that brings us to Franck Eggelhoffer, the wedding planner extraordinaire. Who can forget the hilarious back and forth between George and Franck debating the menu (of course said in accent!)-

“No Franck. Tell Hanck it's not okay. If I have to move out all the furniture and add amps and repaint the walls and get a new tux and pay for swans, then I'd like the cheaper chicken. Is that clear?”

While there are many factors that go into selecting the menu, by the time the wedding day rolls around, your guests aren’t privy to all the back and forth. Do we go with the filet or the cheaper chicken? They just get to enjoy a wonderful meal. Having a menu at the wedding allows your guests to know what type of food is being served and allows the chef to showcase the hand-picked ingredients. It is especially helpful if you have many out of town guests who may not have eaten traditional local fare.


If your guests have a choice of entrees at the wedding, the menu will explain the options. If your caterers need the selection prior to the big day, you can ask your guests to pre-select an entree. Typically this option is given on the RSVP card, and guests are asked to initial a choice for each guest. You can be specific with the description, or more generic. I love the use of small icons.


When designing the menu, tie in colors or use a motif that was carried from the programs or napkins.  Be sure to think about the table linens and place setting. You will want the menus to complement everything since they will be front and center on the platesYou could say that watching and re-watching Father of the Bride in college did give me job preparation! I love all of the details, and helping our brides pull everything together. Because after all, it’s the little details that add up making your wedding unforgettable.


I think George Banks said it best after all…

“Well that’s the thing about life, is the surprises, the little things that sneak up on you and grab hold of you.”

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Edge Treatments


Beveled Edge... Painted Edge... Deckled Edge... Rounded Corners. We are huge fans of them all. When it comes to customizing your paper trousseau, the options are immense. And adding an edge treatment can really make your invitation unique. Painting a gold beveled edge ups the formality of any invite. Try pairing a neon color painted edge against a stark white card- everything pops! Two invitations, side by side, with the exact same font, text, and layout can feel completely different when one card has rounded corners and the other does not.

Edge treatments tend to be more noticeable on thicker card stock. But it is certainly not exclusive. Sometimes subtle is best.  And the romantic deckled edge paper is usually thinner. The torn edges are better seen that way.

There is a lot of lingo in the stationery world. Don’t let it scare you. If you can describe your idea, we can figure out the technical term to use to turn your visions into a reality. Read on for a brief description of some different edge treatments, and then start dreaming away.

painted edge

A painted edge is the addition of color on the actual sides of the paper. Once the stationery or invitations have been printed, the card stock is stacked and the edges of the paper are painted using a wide paint breyer. Every company has a different set of their own paint colors to choose from, but you can also mix custom colors. You can opt to paint the edge of each piece of your wedding suite, or just the main invitation.


Check out this video showing how a craftsman at Crane and Co. apply a painted edge. The shade of blue is so lovely against their Pearl White paper. Imagine how different this same invitation would appear with a red painted edge? Or perhaps in a foil? The edge treatment totally transforms the suite.

Foil Edge

Similar to a painted edge, foil can be added to the sides of paper. Thin sheets of foil or gilded leaf are applied to the stacked paper. It is shinier than doing a traditional painted edge and really pops.


Beveled Edge

Beveling is the process of cutting the edges of the paper on the diagonal (approximately a 45 degree angle). Doing so exposes another edge of the paper. It makes a painted edge stand out more. Beveling can be added to square corners or to rounded ones.


Rounded Corners

Corner rounding is just what the name implies- instead of a traditional 90 degree angle, the paper is cut (often using a die) so the corners are rounded. It can be applied to rectangular or square cards. We usually recommend that you round the corners of each piece in your ensemble.


Deckled Edge

The deckled edge refers to the hand-torn appearance of the edge of a piece of paper. It is a soft edge, appearing almost feather-like. A deckled edge can be hand torn, which is often used in books, scrapbooks, or water color paper. The edge is quite thin and delicate. Deckled edge paper used for wedding invitations and stationery is often created using a machine. It still gives the same appearance, but is a little stronger.


So many options. One of each, please!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Blair + Mike


We just loved being a part of Blair and Mike’s classic, southern wedding. The Barn at Chapel Hill was the perfect backdrop to showcase their love for one another, and the thought they put into every detail. Originally from Burlington, North Carolina, Blair now lives in Washington, DC. As a sign of the times, we worked with her remotely on almost all aspects of the wedding. Between emails, texts, and long distance phone calls, we crafted a cohesive feel for all of her day-of paper needs. The personalized paper elements coordinated with the heartfelt touches the bride included, such as framed photographs of their parents and grandparents on their wedding day. Scroll through the photos below and get a glimpse of this timeless affair.


One color letterpress from our friends at Bella Figura printed on 2 ply cotton paper. Hand calligraphy by Sarah Hanna. The classic calligraphy, juxtaposed against a more modern square size, work beautifully together.



Hand addressed by Calligraphy by Carole. The collection of vintage stamps on each envelope convey the timeless feel the bride incorporated into so many details.


Wedding Programs,

Menus and Placecards

The couple debuted their custom duogram and carried it through multiple pieces. The programs, menu, and placecards were printed digitally on 100# white felt stock.


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // First Anniversary - The Gift of Paper


September marks the anniversary month for our Raleigh store, and always gets us to reflecting. It has been our immense pleasure to work with so many brides (and grooms too!). Now we get to see many of our couples coming into the store to pick out their anniversary cards and gifts.

The history of anniversary gifts harkens back to the Roman empire when husbands would crown their wives with a silver wreath on their 25th wedding anniversary, and a golden wreath on their fiftieth. It was during the Victorian era that the tradition of giving paper on the first anniversary evolved. Another reason for us to thank the royals!

Of course a new stationery suite is the perfect way to embrace this tradition! It’s a great time to get a set of stationery with your new married monogram. We love all of the fresh takes on classic monograms that Arzberger Stationers have. You can carry the monogram onto multiple pieces like flat cards, calling cards, half sheets and more. Stationery can have an individual’s initials, a duogram, or the first and last name.


Another great gift are the Silk Stationery Boxes from Haute Papier. The boxes include 100 notecards, but you can select 4 different names and styles to go on the cards. The entire set will have one unifying liner (we just love the wide variety Haute Papier has) and the same letterpress ink color. You can choose four different types: perhaps the wife’s name on one, husband’s on a second, a monogram on the third, and a joint card with both names on the fourth. There are just so many great combinations! These also make great wedding gifts (or Christmas, birthday…)


Although stationery is the most popular way to incorporate paper into an anniversary gift, you aren’t limited to it. Why not get personalized coasters, notepads, or even cocktail napkins for your at-home bar. Stop by to grab a card and let us help you pick out that perfect first anniversary gift!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Napkins and Coasters


Napkins and coasters are more than just a place to put your drink. Sure, they are practical. But like all details at the wedding, they can add to the festivities by reflecting your personality. What could be an overlooked square piece of paper, can be an invitation for your guests to let loose and have fun!

Many of our brides include their wedding hashtag on their napkins. Others like to carry the motif from programs or menus. It is a great way to pull together a cohesive look without being to theme-y. Cocktails napkins are a great place to use your married monogram or to introduce the new Mr. and Mrs.


Personalized cocktail napkins and koozies are often used at the bar or during the cocktail hour. If your cake will be passed and served to your guests, ask the servers to pass out a napkin with each piece, or arrange a set for the cake table. Don’t forget the powder room- adding personalized guest towels is a nice touch to remind your guests that you thought of everything!


And you can't forget about engagement parties and the rehearsal dinner. Each event can have its own personality (and therefore its own unique design) or you can order in bulk to use throughout the wedding weekend. We suggest a minimum of 3-4 napkins per person for the wedding day. That number can be adjusted if your venue will be supplementing with their own stock.


Any leftovers can be used afterwards. Set them up on your bar or coffee table. Those personal touches will make your first house a home!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A Guide to Invitation Wording

When we are meeting with a bride, and get to the point of writing down the wording for her wedding invitation, it is a time when everything gets real! The special moment is often accompanied by “I can’t believe this is really happening!” But it’s also a time where a lot of questions pop up.

The most important information that the invitation needs to communicate are when and where. And if your invitation design is a little more modern, your wording may differ. But in general, there are some rules to guide you.

As always, our go-to reference is The Wedding Blue Book by Crane & Co. Below are the elements of a traditional wedding invitation and the answers to a couple of our most common questions.


Host Name

Traditionally the parents of the bride host the wedding and issue the invitation. In that case, the invitation will begin with:

Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe

If the parents of the bride are divorced, both sets of parents are listed, with the mother’s name coming first. The names are not joined by the word “and”:

Ms. Jane Elizabeth Doe
Mr. John William Doe

“and” is reserved for if the parents have different last names but are married. If that is the case, the mother’s name is still listed first,  but her name is joined with her husband’s by “and”:

Mrs. Jane Elizabeth Smith
and Mr. John William Doe

If the father is a senior or a junior, the most formal etiquette dictates to write out the word “junior” or “senior” in all lowercase letters. It is preceded by a comma. If the father’s name is particularly long, or he wishes to use an abbreviation, the first letter is capitalized, followed by a lower case “r” and the period. Use of the abbreviation, or a roman numeral (II or III) is also always preceded by a comma.

Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe, junior


Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe, Jr.

For various reasons, a couple may prefer to issue the invitations themselves. If that is the case “Together with their families” is acceptable.

For Jewish families issuing an invitation, the word “and” is used between the bride and groom instead of “to”. Additionally, the groom’s parents names are listed below that of their son. This tradition stems from the belief that the wedding ceremony represents the joining of two families.

Request Line

request the honour of your presence


request the pleasure of your company

These are the two most common phrases used to request the attendance at the wedding. Both options are equally as formal, but used under different circumstances. Weddings held in a church, synagogue, or other house of worship use “honour of your presence” while ceremonies held in other locations use “pleasure of your company”.

honour  vs. honor

This a personal preference, but many brides opt for the traditional English spelling. It can feel a little more formal. The most important thing, though, is to stay consistent. So on the response card you would opt for favour if necessary.


List the day, date and month spelled out. Originally, the year was written out in all lower case letters, so you may see that occasionally. Today, it is usually preferred to capitalize the first letter of the year while spelling it out.

Saturday, the second of June
Two thousand eighteen


The time comes next, preceded by “at”. On formal invitations, the time is spelled out. It is optional to include the time of day. But if you do include the time of day, you should adhere to the following rules: before noon, is “in the morning”, between noon-5:30 pm use “in the afternoon”, and for ceremonies taking place between 6:00 p.m. and midnight, one would use “in the evening”.

at five o’clock in the afternoon

It was once considered good luck to marry on the half hour. If that is the case, the phrase “half after” is used and not half past.

at half after five o’clock

Location and Address

List the full name of the location for the wedding ceremony next. Although the city and state is always included, the street address is optional. If there are more than one building or public spaces with the same name, it may be helpful for your guests. Sometimes space dictates this decision. The zip code is not included.

Saint Mary’s Chapel
Raleigh, North Carolina

Additional Information

If desired, reception information can be included on the bottom of the invitation. Attire requests can also be listed in the bottom right hand corner of the invitation.

Reception to follow
Black tie         

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// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Envelope Liners


A lined envelope makes your wedding invitation fully dressed; it’s that final accessory that ties everything together. The pop of color with your little black dress. Wearing your grandmother’s pearl earrings with your Sunday best.

There are so many possibilities when it comes to envelope linings. Something subtle, like an opal shimmer paper or classic gold tissue, works really well with a classic, formal invitation. But you can also make a bolder statement with a beautiful floral or a graphic foil pattern. Custom liners featuring a monogram, or even the map of your location, are wonderfully personal touches. But sometimes the only thing you need is a solid paper liner. There are literally hundreds of options.


In a traditional, double envelope wedding invitation suite, the inner envelope is the envelope that is lined. Those envelopes are not gummed. The recipient can easily slide the invitation out of the envelope flap and the liner presents the rest of the invitation to you. If you are using single envelopes (only outer gummed envelopes) you  can still line them. A tip from the experts- when sealing the envelope, only moisten the top of the “V” so that the envelope easily pops open and you can see the lining.


And liners are not reserved for wedding invitations only. Think Save the Dates, bridal showers or other celebrations. Adding different liners to your stationery suite is a great way to change the personality of your monogram. Pairing a traditional three-letter monogram with gold tissue on one set of cards and a funky green geometric pattern on the other, is a great way to re-use your same engraving plates. The result is two sets of stationery with very different personalities.


Because after all, the most important element of any invitation, is that it does reflect your personality!