// REAL WEDDINGS // December Deckled Edges

Nothing says December like a deckled edge… that is just what you were thinking, right? We know people typically think of snowflakes and Santa, Christmas cards, and holiday invitations. But December weddings are special in their own right. Everyone is already feeling festive. Churches and venues are filled with greenery and candles.

The same romanticism of a candle lit room is embodied in the torn edges of deckled paper. These two December wedding invitations evoke the feeling of the season in very different ways. Both printed and designed in-house, they also each feature the artwork of an outside artist.

Bethany + Grayson

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Bethany and Grayson’s wedding invitations featured the custom wreath artwork and duogram of Betsy Peters Rascoe of Design Dimensions. We paired a coordinating script font for the bride and groom’s names. The design embraces the season, without screaming Christmas.

Flat print on Ivory Deckled Edge Paper | Photography courtesy of Missy Mimlitsch

Flat print on Ivory Deckled Edge Paper | Photography courtesy of Missy Mimlitsch

Emily + Greg


Emily and Greg’s invitations are clean and elegant. Featuring their names in the calligraphy of Shasta Bell, we decided to keep the rest of the text very simple. The charcoal ink pairs wonderfully with the crispness of the white deckled paper. The entire suite evokes the quietness of winter.

Flat print on White Deckled Edge Paper

Flat print on White Deckled Edge Paper

If you would like to work with an outside artist or calligrapher on elements of your wedding invitation, we can add additional typesetting to their designs. We require all artwork to be submitted to us in a high resolution file. It can also then be used on napkins, koozies, or other day of paper needs. We have lots of sizes in stock including square and folded cards. So many options and so many possibilities!

Don’t fault us… while others are dreaming of a white christmas, we are dreaming of deckled edges.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Seely + Bo


Sometimes the backdrop of a wedding is just as important as the people gathered for the celebration. Especially if that location has a personal significance. Seely Stephenson and Bo Nicholson tied the knot in Roaring Gap, North Carolina this past September. The bride’s grandparents were married in the same spot many years ago. In fact, they were gifted with a painting of the wedding site, the Greystone Inn, for their wedding. Seely wanted to incorporate that piece of family history into her paper trousseau.

Save the Dates

The painting was used as the building block for the Save the Date design. The information was kept minimal and the colorful painting set the stage for the wonderful weekend in the mountains.


Designed and printed in-house- Flat print on 100 lb white felt paper


The wedding invitations, printed by our friends at Arzberger, also incorporated the same image, but we softened the edges of the painting. The deep green ink stands out beautifully on the crisp white paper. Using the same fonts from the Save the Dates helped create a cohesive feel for the wedding. These invitations had two press runs, one for the digital image at the top, and a second for the raised text.


Thermography and flat print on 165 lb white paper printed by Arzberger Stationers

Welcome Party


Designed and printed in-house- Flat print on 100lb white felt paper with kraft paper envelopes

Cocktail Napkins

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While the Welcome Dinner Invitations echoed the mountains with the kraft colored envelopes and motif of greenery, the personalized coral napkins gave a pop of color. Seely and Bo’s fun-loving personalities shined throughout the weekend. And that joyous spirit was included in all of the wedding details. They built new memories on the shoulders of cherished family ones.

How lucky are we to be a part of it all?

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A thank you to our brides...


I have a little secret for y’all… I love my job. I had a bride come in the other day to pick up a sample of her wedding invitations. The bulk of the invites were being shipped to her mom’s house for addressing. But she wanted to see one in person. She came in, dressed in her business attire, super professional. I grabbed the invitation and handed it over to her. As she opened it, revealed the gorgeous envelope liner, and pulled out the invitation, she starting crying. It was such a sweet moment. I remember when she and her fiance had first come in to discuss Save the Dates. They are clearly smitten with one another. And we get to be a part of the day they join together for the long haul.

It is our immense pleasure to work with you during life’s most important moments. Although our blog is focused mostly on weddings, there are many other moments we are thankful to share. We get to celebrate babies with birth announcements. Help you put your best foot forward with new business cards. Stand by you during a vulnerable time when crafting the sentiment for sympathy acknowledgement cards.

If It’s Paper could be just another party store. A place to pick up some funny napkins, or grab a birthday card. But instead, you share your life with us. During this season of Thanksgiving, we are thankful for you.

// REAL WEDDINGS // Martha + James

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue.

This old English rhyme still holds meaning today. The Knot.com describes the meaning behind the poem using words like continuity, tradition, good luck, and optimism. Martha and James’ April wedding embodied these words in spirit, and in all the details.

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From their invitations, to the wedding favors, the bride took classic designs, and gave them a fresh new look-- a traditional layout and font combination in an unexpected horizontal orientation. A time-honored marriage ceremony laid out in a petite, accordion fold wedding program. And the color blue, often used to symbolize love, purity, and fidelity, was sprinkled throughout the wedding reception. A new custom-designed duogram for the bride and groom was used on the Save the Dates. That same motif was carried into other pieces at the wedding (the program, napkins, and koozies). Martha used her program to not only lay out the order of the ceremony, but to describe her something old, something new. Every guest was treated to the sentiment behind many of the details.


Fans of the handwritten note, we love how the bride and groom wrote letters to one another. Martha had some of her letters to James framed. In another sweet gesture, James had their wedding motif embroidered on a handkerchief. Known to shed happy tears, it was the perfect present for Martha. And you can imagine that same handkerchief becoming a something old or something borrowed for a loved one in the future.


Save the Date

Designed and printed in-house on deckled paper



165# white card stock printed in black thermography



100# felt paper printed digitally and scored

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Ok, I admit it. I can recite the Father of the Bride movie almost word for word. Steve Martin as George Banks and his perfect one-liners.

“You know, that's not a bad idea. Who else can we ask not to eat?
My parents- your mother.”


“A cake, Franck, is made of flour and water. My first car didn’t cost $1200.”

And that brings us to Franck Eggelhoffer, the wedding planner extraordinaire. Who can forget the hilarious back and forth between George and Franck debating the menu (of course said in accent!)-

“No Franck. Tell Hanck it's not okay. If I have to move out all the furniture and add amps and repaint the walls and get a new tux and pay for swans, then I'd like the cheaper chicken. Is that clear?”

While there are many factors that go into selecting the menu, by the time the wedding day rolls around, your guests aren’t privy to all the back and forth. Do we go with the filet or the cheaper chicken? They just get to enjoy a wonderful meal. Having a menu at the wedding allows your guests to know what type of food is being served and allows the chef to showcase the hand-picked ingredients. It is especially helpful if you have many out of town guests who may not have eaten traditional local fare.


If your guests have a choice of entrees at the wedding, the menu will explain the options. If your caterers need the selection prior to the big day, you can ask your guests to pre-select an entree. Typically this option is given on the RSVP card, and guests are asked to initial a choice for each guest. You can be specific with the description, or more generic. I love the use of small icons.


When designing the menu, tie in colors or use a motif that was carried from the programs or napkins.  Be sure to think about the table linens and place setting. You will want the menus to complement everything since they will be front and center on the platesYou could say that watching and re-watching Father of the Bride in college did give me job preparation! I love all of the details, and helping our brides pull everything together. Because after all, it’s the little details that add up making your wedding unforgettable.


I think George Banks said it best after all…

“Well that’s the thing about life, is the surprises, the little things that sneak up on you and grab hold of you.”

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Edge Treatments


Beveled Edge... Painted Edge... Deckled Edge... Rounded Corners. We are huge fans of them all. When it comes to customizing your paper trousseau, the options are immense. And adding an edge treatment can really make your invitation unique. Painting a gold beveled edge ups the formality of any invite. Try pairing a neon color painted edge against a stark white card- everything pops! Two invitations, side by side, with the exact same font, text, and layout can feel completely different when one card has rounded corners and the other does not.

Edge treatments tend to be more noticeable on thicker card stock. But it is certainly not exclusive. Sometimes subtle is best.  And the romantic deckled edge paper is usually thinner. The torn edges are better seen that way.

There is a lot of lingo in the stationery world. Don’t let it scare you. If you can describe your idea, we can figure out the technical term to use to turn your visions into a reality. Read on for a brief description of some different edge treatments, and then start dreaming away.

painted edge

A painted edge is the addition of color on the actual sides of the paper. Once the stationery or invitations have been printed, the card stock is stacked and the edges of the paper are painted using a wide paint breyer. Every company has a different set of their own paint colors to choose from, but you can also mix custom colors. You can opt to paint the edge of each piece of your wedding suite, or just the main invitation.


Check out this video showing how a craftsman at Crane and Co. apply a painted edge. The shade of blue is so lovely against their Pearl White paper. Imagine how different this same invitation would appear with a red painted edge? Or perhaps in a foil? The edge treatment totally transforms the suite.

Foil Edge

Similar to a painted edge, foil can be added to the sides of paper. Thin sheets of foil or gilded leaf are applied to the stacked paper. It is shinier than doing a traditional painted edge and really pops.


Beveled Edge

Beveling is the process of cutting the edges of the paper on the diagonal (approximately a 45 degree angle). Doing so exposes another edge of the paper. It makes a painted edge stand out more. Beveling can be added to square corners or to rounded ones.


Rounded Corners

Corner rounding is just what the name implies- instead of a traditional 90 degree angle, the paper is cut (often using a die) so the corners are rounded. It can be applied to rectangular or square cards. We usually recommend that you round the corners of each piece in your ensemble.


Deckled Edge

The deckled edge refers to the hand-torn appearance of the edge of a piece of paper. It is a soft edge, appearing almost feather-like. A deckled edge can be hand torn, which is often used in books, scrapbooks, or water color paper. The edge is quite thin and delicate. Deckled edge paper used for wedding invitations and stationery is often created using a machine. It still gives the same appearance, but is a little stronger.


So many options. One of each, please!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Blair + Mike


We just loved being a part of Blair and Mike’s classic, southern wedding. The Barn at Chapel Hill was the perfect backdrop to showcase their love for one another, and the thought they put into every detail. Originally from Burlington, North Carolina, Blair now lives in Washington, DC. As a sign of the times, we worked with her remotely on almost all aspects of the wedding. Between emails, texts, and long distance phone calls, we crafted a cohesive feel for all of her day-of paper needs. The personalized paper elements coordinated with the heartfelt touches the bride included, such as framed photographs of their parents and grandparents on their wedding day. Scroll through the photos below and get a glimpse of this timeless affair.


One color letterpress from our friends at Bella Figura printed on 2 ply cotton paper. Hand calligraphy by Sarah Hanna. The classic calligraphy, juxtaposed against a more modern square size, work beautifully together.



Hand addressed by Calligraphy by Carole. The collection of vintage stamps on each envelope convey the timeless feel the bride incorporated into so many details.


Wedding Programs,

Menus and Placecards

The couple debuted their custom duogram and carried it through multiple pieces. The programs, menu, and placecards were printed digitally on 100# white felt stock.


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // First Anniversary - The Gift of Paper


September marks the anniversary month for our Raleigh store, and always gets us to reflecting. It has been our immense pleasure to work with so many brides (and grooms too!). Now we get to see many of our couples coming into the store to pick out their anniversary cards and gifts.

The history of anniversary gifts harkens back to the Roman empire when husbands would crown their wives with a silver wreath on their 25th wedding anniversary, and a golden wreath on their fiftieth. It was during the Victorian era that the tradition of giving paper on the first anniversary evolved. Another reason for us to thank the royals!

Of course a new stationery suite is the perfect way to embrace this tradition! It’s a great time to get a set of stationery with your new married monogram. We love all of the fresh takes on classic monograms that Arzberger Stationers have. You can carry the monogram onto multiple pieces like flat cards, calling cards, half sheets and more. Stationery can have an individual’s initials, a duogram, or the first and last name.


Another great gift are the Silk Stationery Boxes from Haute Papier. The boxes include 100 notecards, but you can select 4 different names and styles to go on the cards. The entire set will have one unifying liner (we just love the wide variety Haute Papier has) and the same letterpress ink color. You can choose four different types: perhaps the wife’s name on one, husband’s on a second, a monogram on the third, and a joint card with both names on the fourth. There are just so many great combinations! These also make great wedding gifts (or Christmas, birthday…)


Although stationery is the most popular way to incorporate paper into an anniversary gift, you aren’t limited to it. Why not get personalized coasters, notepads, or even cocktail napkins for your at-home bar. Stop by to grab a card and let us help you pick out that perfect first anniversary gift!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Napkins and Coasters


Napkins and coasters are more than just a place to put your drink. Sure, they are practical. But like all details at the wedding, they can add to the festivities by reflecting your personality. What could be an overlooked square piece of paper, can be an invitation for your guests to let loose and have fun!

Many of our brides include their wedding hashtag on their napkins. Others like to carry the motif from programs or menus. It is a great way to pull together a cohesive look without being to theme-y. Cocktails napkins are a great place to use your married monogram or to introduce the new Mr. and Mrs.


Personalized cocktail napkins and koozies are often used at the bar or during the cocktail hour. If your cake will be passed and served to your guests, ask the servers to pass out a napkin with each piece, or arrange a set for the cake table. Don’t forget the powder room- adding personalized guest towels is a nice touch to remind your guests that you thought of everything!


And you can't forget about engagement parties and the rehearsal dinner. Each event can have its own personality (and therefore its own unique design) or you can order in bulk to use throughout the wedding weekend. We suggest a minimum of 3-4 napkins per person for the wedding day. That number can be adjusted if your venue will be supplementing with their own stock.


Any leftovers can be used afterwards. Set them up on your bar or coffee table. Those personal touches will make your first house a home!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // A Guide to Invitation Wording

When we are meeting with a bride, and get to the point of writing down the wording for her wedding invitation, it is a time when everything gets real! The special moment is often accompanied by “I can’t believe this is really happening!” But it’s also a time where a lot of questions pop up.

The most important information that the invitation needs to communicate are when and where. And if your invitation design is a little more modern, your wording may differ. But in general, there are some rules to guide you.

As always, our go-to reference is The Wedding Blue Book by Crane & Co. Below are the elements of a traditional wedding invitation and the answers to a couple of our most common questions.


Host Name

Traditionally the parents of the bride host the wedding and issue the invitation. In that case, the invitation will begin with:

Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe

If the parents of the bride are divorced, both sets of parents are listed, with the mother’s name coming first. The names are not joined by the word “and”:

Ms. Jane Elizabeth Doe
Mr. John William Doe

“and” is reserved for if the parents have different last names but are married. If that is the case, the mother’s name is still listed first,  but her name is joined with her husband’s by “and”:

Mrs. Jane Elizabeth Smith
and Mr. John William Doe

If the father is a senior or a junior, the most formal etiquette dictates to write out the word “junior” or “senior” in all lowercase letters. It is preceded by a comma. If the father’s name is particularly long, or he wishes to use an abbreviation, the first letter is capitalized, followed by a lower case “r” and the period. Use of the abbreviation, or a roman numeral (II or III) is also always preceded by a comma.

Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe, junior


Mr. and Mrs. John William Doe, Jr.

For various reasons, a couple may prefer to issue the invitations themselves. If that is the case “Together with their families” is acceptable.

For Jewish families issuing an invitation, the word “and” is used between the bride and groom instead of “to”. Additionally, the groom’s parents names are listed below that of their son. This tradition stems from the belief that the wedding ceremony represents the joining of two families.

Request Line

request the honour of your presence


request the pleasure of your company

These are the two most common phrases used to request the attendance at the wedding. Both options are equally as formal, but used under different circumstances. Weddings held in a church, synagogue, or other house of worship use “honour of your presence” while ceremonies held in other locations use “pleasure of your company”.

honour  vs. honor

This a personal preference, but many brides opt for the traditional English spelling. It can feel a little more formal. The most important thing, though, is to stay consistent. So on the response card you would opt for favour if necessary.


List the day, date and month spelled out. Originally, the year was written out in all lower case letters, so you may see that occasionally. Today, it is usually preferred to capitalize the first letter of the year while spelling it out.

Saturday, the second of June
Two thousand eighteen


The time comes next, preceded by “at”. On formal invitations, the time is spelled out. It is optional to include the time of day. But if you do include the time of day, you should adhere to the following rules: before noon, is “in the morning”, between noon-5:30 pm use “in the afternoon”, and for ceremonies taking place between 6:00 p.m. and midnight, one would use “in the evening”.

at five o’clock in the afternoon

It was once considered good luck to marry on the half hour. If that is the case, the phrase “half after” is used and not half past.

at half after five o’clock

Location and Address

List the full name of the location for the wedding ceremony next. Although the city and state is always included, the street address is optional. If there are more than one building or public spaces with the same name, it may be helpful for your guests. Sometimes space dictates this decision. The zip code is not included.

Saint Mary’s Chapel
Raleigh, North Carolina

Additional Information

If desired, reception information can be included on the bottom of the invitation. Attire requests can also be listed in the bottom right hand corner of the invitation.

Reception to follow
Black tie         

Our custom invitation specialists are here to answer all of your questions. And when in doubt, pick up a copy of the The Wedding Blue Book!  We don’t hesitate to grab it when needed!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Envelope Liners


A lined envelope makes your wedding invitation fully dressed; it’s that final accessory that ties everything together. The pop of color with your little black dress. Wearing your grandmother’s pearl earrings with your Sunday best.

There are so many possibilities when it comes to envelope linings. Something subtle, like an opal shimmer paper or classic gold tissue, works really well with a classic, formal invitation. But you can also make a bolder statement with a beautiful floral or a graphic foil pattern. Custom liners featuring a monogram, or even the map of your location, are wonderfully personal touches. But sometimes the only thing you need is a solid paper liner. There are literally hundreds of options.


In a traditional, double envelope wedding invitation suite, the inner envelope is the envelope that is lined. Those envelopes are not gummed. The recipient can easily slide the invitation out of the envelope flap and the liner presents the rest of the invitation to you. If you are using single envelopes (only outer gummed envelopes) you  can still line them. A tip from the experts- when sealing the envelope, only moisten the top of the “V” so that the envelope easily pops open and you can see the lining.


And liners are not reserved for wedding invitations only. Think Save the Dates, bridal showers or other celebrations. Adding different liners to your stationery suite is a great way to change the personality of your monogram. Pairing a traditional three-letter monogram with gold tissue on one set of cards and a funky green geometric pattern on the other, is a great way to re-use your same engraving plates. The result is two sets of stationery with very different personalities.


Because after all, the most important element of any invitation, is that it does reflect your personality!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Asking your Bridal Party

Groom? Check. Ring? Check. Wedding Date? Check. Bridal Party????

Now it’s time to choose the people who will stand beside you on your special day. What used to be an ordinary question, is now an event all in itself. We are amazed at the creativity our brides and grooms have when it comes to asking their future bridesmaids, flower girls, ring bearers and groomsmen.

Some do it with a simple card and a bottle of champagne or box of cigars. Can’t go wrong with classic.


But it’s not uncommon for a bride to swoop in asking for gift boxes, crinkle paper and other gift wrapping supplies. Candles, champagne glasses, or personalized jewelry are popular enclosures, tied up with a beautiful bow and of course, a handwritten note.

We have even had the pleasure of helping create custom cards like the ones below for the occasion.


Admit it, we all have our pinterest boards! And we would love to be a part of it all. Start the wedding planning season off right, asking your friends to be a part of your special day in your own unique way.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Stamp of Approval


We’re pretty obsessed with snail mail (in case you haven’t noticed). And there can’t be snail mail without postage. Your postage stamp has a very practical job; it covers the cost of getting your invitation across town, or across the country. And yet, even though practical, it can still convey a sense of style. Is love in the air? Obsessing over that “something old”? Have a destination wedding? Why not let the first impression on your envelope tie in to the overall feel of your event?

You will need stamps for the outer envelope, but don’t forget to put another stamp on the smaller envelope for the reply set. It will help ensure that the rsvp comes back to you.

One of the most common questions we get from our brides is how much postage will their invitation require. We always recommend taking your entire suite to the post office to get it officially weighed. The cost will be determined by the stuffed envelope. But below are the current prices from the United States Postal Service:

1 ounce “forever” stamp envelope  |  .50
(should cover most response card envelopes or standard size Save the Dates)

1 ounce square or odd size envelope  |  .71

2 ounce envelopes  |  .71
(for many invitation suites on standard paper including the invite and reply set)

2 ounce odd size  |  .92

3 ounce envelopes  |  .92
(may be required for invitations with multiple inserts, heavier lined envelopes, or on double-thick card stock)

The USPS offers several different wedding themed stamps, including some by our friends at Rifle Paper. You can create personalized stamps sanction by the post office. Adding a collection of vintage stamps to your invitation is another trend we happily stand beside. There are stamps for every occasion. It makes running to the mailbox that much more fun!

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// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // It's all about the foil


Shiny gold, brushed gold, matte gold, rose gold. Copper. Once reserved for limited edition book covers, or those who could afford gold leaf, Foil-Pressing is now a more widely available print method. Embraced by many brides, adding foil to your wedding invitations is a sure way to make your invitations stand out. It is a bolder choice than traditional engraving, and offers flashier colors than letterpress, but the process is actually quite similar.


To add foil to an invitation, a metal die is created. But instead of the ink being applied directly to the die (as in engraving), the metal plate is heated. Thin sheets of foil are then pressed onto the paper by the hot plate. Because of the large amount of pressure applied, the foil adheres to the paper leaving a crisp, shiny image. A second plate, and second run of the press, is used for each additional color.


An opaque material, foil is applied on top of the paper. So it is a great choice when using darker colored stock. The color of the paper does not affect the crispness or hue, so it is always consistent. The shiny result lands a big visual impact.

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Foil can be used in combination with letterpress and engraving, but is not a great option to combine with thermography (since both processes involve heat). And once limited to traditional metallics, now virtually the entire rainbow is available in all its shiny glory.


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Rehearsal Dinner Invitations


You can call it the Night Before the Big Day, the Wedding Eve, or a good old fashioned Rehearsal Dinner, but the evening before a wedding is always full of anticipation. It’s a time for members of both families to meet, and includes the entire wedding party. Dinner is usually served, and sometimes a groom’s cake, maybe a funny toast or two, but there is always good cheer and well wishes for the next day.

Another popular wedding festivity that has become quite common, particularly for destination weddings, is a Welcome Party. It is open to more guests and usually just drinks and/or dessert are served. If you have a lot of out-of-town guests, but can’t have them all at a formal rehearsal dinner, it is a nice way to incorporate more people into the weekend’s festivities.


Traditionally, the Rehearsal Dinner is hosted by the groom’s family. Many families adhere to this tradition, but it is by no means set in stone. If it is being hosted by the groom’s parents, then typically they would issue the invitation. Often the Rehearsal Dinner invitation is a little more masculine, or gives a nod to the destination or the venue of the night’s events. It can be formal, but should not upstage the wedding invitation. It’s a time for the groom’s family to display their personality and send off their son in style.


Rehearsal dinner invitations are sent after the wedding invitations have gone out, typically 3-6 weeks before the event. Be sure and include the location, time, address, and attire. You can also include any information regarding the actual ceremony rehearsal if needed.


If the evening will end with a Welcome Party, an insert can be slipped into the envelope with the Rehearsal Dinner invitation, or a completely different invite can be sent to all guests. It is common for family friends to host the after party. They may want to select their own invitation, especially if they are like us and jump at any chance to pick out some fun paper! If the groom’s parents and other hosts would like to create and send their own invitation, the bride should not interfere with certain specifications. It is one of the pleasure’s of being able to host an event, that you get to pick out your own way to send paper love.

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Thank You Notes

Merci Beaucoup! Grazie! Thanks!

One of the most popular weekly segments on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon are his Thank You Notes. Saying thanks to everything from hard taco shells, to yoga, to thanking fellow late night host James Corden from going by the name Jimmy, Fallon writes his notes on classic Crane stationery.

Although we may not have an audience like Jimmy Fallon, getting in the habit of writing thank you notes is just as important. Especially after a big occasion like a wedding.

During this exciting time  you will be showered with well wishes, gifts, and festivities. And each and every one one should be met with a heartfelt thank you. As Margaret Shepherd says in her book The Art of the Handwritten Note, “Ink on paper is still the classiest way to express the thoughts that really matter, on the occasions that really count. And sometimes it’s the only way; your words will carry sympathy and gratitude with a special kind of sincerity when the reader sees them on paper in your writing.”

In general, gifts received before the wedding should be followed by a thank you within two weeks. According to Emily Post, couples have three months post wedding to get the task done. Especially since the gift giver was not there to see you receive all of the gifts at the wedding, it is important to make sure and let them know you received the gift and, of course, loved it.

Late is always better than never. So don’t hesitate to send one past the three month mark.

So what do you say? Shepherd gives 5 characteristics of a well-written note.

  1. Be generous

  2. Be specific

  3. Be prompt

  4. Be succinct

  5. Be personal

Be generous in thanking the giver in writing, even if you thanked them in person. Mention the gift specifically. Send the thank you notes out in a timely manner. Keep the topic of this note to the occasion and the gift. Hand writing the note, especially on your own stationery, keeps it personal. Don’t use pre-printed cards without your own hand-written sentiment.

Picking out some personal stationery makes the process a little more fun! And with a great sale from Crane & Co. right now, you can get 50 personalized cards for only $99. Add a fun stamp and you will be sending some paper love in the mail!


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Bridal Showers


Bridal showers are a time-honored tradition, especially in the South. Cucumber sandwiches, a bouquet made of ribbons and bows, and the oohing and ahhing after each beautifully wrapped gift is opened. A place setting of china? Useful cooking utensils? Monogrammed linens?


Along with the traditional shower, today’s brides are sometimes showered around a theme- Stock the Bar, Lingerie, Round the Clock, or His and Hers. Some brides opt for one larger shower, while others have multiple smaller gatherings. The invitation sets the theme right from the start!


We have an extensive selection of imprintables in the store to give you an idea for shower themes. And of course, the custom options are limitless! On the invitation, be sure and tell your guests whom the shower is for, location, time, as well as rsvp information. A list of hosts is often included, as is registry information, but it is not necessary.

It is always a nice gesture to give the hosts of the shower a small hostess gift, of course accompanied by a handwritten note. It will get you warmed up for all of those thank you notes you will be writing in the weeks ahead!


// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Menus, Programs & Place Cards

Menus, programs and place cards (lions, tigers and bears, oh my!)

Although you’re not likely to encounter lions, tigers, and bears (oh my!) when planning your wedding, sometimes all of the emerging details are just as scary! Do we want programs? Are place cards necessary? What about weekend itineraries?

Programs are often handed out at the wedding ceremony. They include information such as the order of the service, readings, song titles etc. Additionally, couples use the programs to introduce the wedding party to their guests and as an opportunity to say a special thank you, or greeting. Sometimes pertinent reception information (such as directions or transportation information) is written on the back side.

Lots of options exist for program formatting: long and skinny, foldover booklet, tri-folds or even fans for those hot summer weddings!

Sunday Rein

Sunday Rein

Place cards and table numbers are used for seated dinners. We have a large selection of place cards and table numbers in stock that can be personalized. At If It’s paper, we are able to print the names of all of your guests on placecards ahead of time. Or we can add a custom motif to a place card, and then the names can later be added by a calligrapher.

Other components for the wedding weekend we have created include welcome booklets, city guides, gift tags, favor tags, signage and more! Using the same font, color, or monogram throughout your pieces gives a cohesive flow. It adds a personal touch without getting too theme-y.

We typically work on programs about 3-4 weeks before the wedding. If you have all of your information nailed down, you can certainly start earlier. Often, though, the details don’t come together much sooner. If you can dream it, we can make it! And we promise it won’t be scary!

// REAL WEDDINGS // Emily & Nick


We had the immense pleasure of working with a local Greensboro blogger, Emily Helm Wilkinson, on all her wedding day-of details last Fall. From custom welcome booklets, tags, programs, menus and place cards to printed napkins and cups, Emily & Nick's special day was filled with personal touches that made the day unforgettable.

So for today's post, we are leaving the blogging up to the professional, and just giving you a glimpse of the details we created below. Head on over to Emily's blog to check out all the other goodness from her beautiful wedding.

All photographs by Alexa's Photography