// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Addressing your Envelopes

Do you ever feel like you need an advanced degree in wedding planning to know everything? How do you stuff the envelope? What am I supposed to do with that tissue paper? Consider us to have a PhD in this area!

One of the most common questions we get about invitations is how to properly address an envelope.

Calligraphy by Carole 

Calligraphy by Carole 

Crane and Co., who we proudly represent, is a great reference for wedding etiquette questions. We consulted their Wedding Blue Book when coming up with the following examples of how to address an envelope.

When addressing the outer envelope, use the full proper name of the guest(s), including titles, and always spell out street and state names.

For a married couple who share the same last name:

Mr. and Mrs. George Timothy Clooney
1234 Hollywood Way
Beverly Hills, California 90210

For a married couple who have different last names:

Ms. Jennifer Joanna Aniston and Mr. Justin Paul Theroux
1234 Friends Avenue
Malibu, California 90265

If a couple is living together, but they are not married, the word “and” is omitted and the woman’s name is listed on the top line and the man’s on the second.

Ms. Oprah Gail Winfrey
Mr. Stedman Graham, Junior
1234 Michigan Avenue
Chicago, Illinois 60611

Same sex couples would list their names in alphabetical order and follow the same rules regarding if they are married or not.

Mr. David Michael Burtka and Mr. Neil Patrick Harris

For invitations that have an inner and outer envelope, the above addresses are used on the outer envelope, and the inner envelope list their names again. Any children or guests that are also invited are listed on the inner envelope. Traditionally, formal names appear on the inner envelope as well:

Mr. Burtka and Mr. Harris

but today people commonly use the form of address that they know the couple as:

David and Neil

If children are invited, their names would appear on the inner envelope, listed in chronological order:

Mr. Burtka and Mr. Harris
Gideon and Harper

Whew! That’s a lot of info! We hope this helps. We are always here for our brides and grooms to answer any questions along the way, so comment below if you have a crazy address that you’re not sure what to do with and we will come to the rescue!

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // Save the Dates

It’s time to grab that red pen and mark everyone’s calendar- YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED! We live in such busy times, people’s calendars fill up. Save the Date cards are a great way to communicate the essential information to your guestlist. Here are some answers to common questions we receive about Save the Date’s:

Do I need to send a Save the Date card?

Save the Date cards have become more popular in recent years, but they are not mandatory. If you are having a destination wedding, getting married during the holiday season, or over a popular three-day weekend, it’s helpful to spread the word. The people most important to you can then reserve the date and begin making travel arrangements. They are also helpful if you have a lot of information to convey (including accommodations etc). With a fabulous Save the Date, your guests are sure to get more excited about the weekend.

Who should receive them?

Everyone on your guest list, including your bridal party, should get one. If you are considering having an A list and a B list of invitees (be honest, you know you do), only send Save the Dates to people you are confident will be included on the final list. You can send invitations to people who did not receive a Save the Date card.

What information do I need to include?

The date and location are the most important pieces of information to be included. Some understated Save the Dates just list the couples names, the date, and the city and state. This is a great option particularly if you haven’t nailed down your venue site yet. “Formal Invitation to follow” is usually included on the bottom. Some brides opt to list accommodations, or other pertinent information. If you have a wedding website, it may be helpful to list as well.

Does my Save the Date need to match my formal wedding invitation?

Most importantly, your Save the Date needs to match your personality! Some brides choose their Save the Date with a cohesive look in mind that will flow from their Save the Dates to their invites and other components of their paper suite. Others like to include an engagement photograph, or an illustration of the venue. Or you can be creative, depart from the traditional wedding invitation look, and choose a fun announcement that reflects your relationship.

Here are some other Save the Dates that we are loving right now:

// WEDDING WEDNESDAY // You said yes.. now what?

We want to walk with you every step of the way on your engagement journey - from save the date cards to wedding invitations, programs to thank you’s. Below is the ideal timeline for a 12 month engagement:

10 - 12 months before
  • Order Save-the-Date Cards
  • Order Thank You Stationery
8 - 11 months before
  • Mail Save-the-Date Cards
4 - 6 months before
  • Order Wedding Invitations
  • Order Rehearsal Dinner and other wedding weekend invitations
  • Contact Calligrapher
6 - 8 weeks before
  • Mail wedding invitations
  • Mail rehearsal dinner invitations
  • Order Wedding Programs
  • Order Menus, Table Cards, Placecards and Favor Tags
  • Order Custom Napkins
  • Order Announcements
  • Replenish Thank You Stationery

If your engagement is shorter than twelve months, simply pick up at the right month and add the previous items to your to-do list. And don’t forget to make an appointment with us to start checking things off of your list.

We love the Sugar Paper Wedding Planner shown above. Print out our checklist below and tuck it inside!


Introducing... // WEDDING WEDNESDAY //

We are so excited to introduce Wedding Wednesdays to our blog!

Each week we will feature a new topic surrounding all things necessary for your paper trousseau. Letterpress or Engraving? How long do I have to write thank you notes? I've got my invitations, now how do I stuff the envelope?

Have a question? Comment below and we will be sure to add it to our list of hot topics.